We're all in this together.

I had never met 3/4 other women in this photo, and
yet we had a blast helping a fellow eventer and
getting to know each other! 

     The unsung heroes of the equestrian world are oftentimes those people we just speak to or see in passing at the barn. Maybe a fellow boarder who is always offering a compliment or positive tidbits of wisdom to brighten your day, or a fellow lesson go-er who gives you an air high-five as you pass each other in the ring after a particularly tough, yet rewarding, lesson. We need those people in our lives. Being a horse-owner is a difficult road: emotionally, mentally, financially, and even, sometimes, spiritually. Throw in a competitive drive with some goals, and it can quickly devolve into a cut throat world where people tear each other down in order to raise themselves up. Don't. Be. That. Guy. If you leave your lessons crying, or feeling defeated, something needs to change. If your fellow boarders are snickering behind your back about your riding, or horsemanship, something needs to change. If your equestrian friends are constantly gossiping about other people, and it never seems to be positive, you probably need new friends. We should be raising each other up, not tearing each other down. I have been on the receiving end of unkind gossip more than once, and from supposed friends, and I can honestly say I will do everything in my power so that no one I interact with should feel that way. I am your friend, not your trainer. You pay your trainer for their training prowess, not your friends. Your equestrian friends are merely there for encouragement and positive vibes, and solicited opinions! (And in my case, snacks. I will always bring the snacks.) If you are putting your horse first, you have a friend, and a cheerleader, in me. I have cleaned house more than once on social media, and in my life, to remove those negative influences from my life. I unfollow businesses who highlight negativity, and professional riders who don't seem to have their priorities in order, because I want to be surrounded by both positivity and authentic horse{wo}men. 
     So, keep fighting the good fight, and surround yourself with radiant people who support you and want the best for you, and don't let anyone tell you or make you feel poorly about yourself. You are incredible and amazing and valued, and your horse is lucky to have you. Keep on, keeping on!